diff --git a/locale/en/blog/can-i-be.md b/locale/en/blog/can-i-be.md new file mode 100644 index 000000000..50a9eba26 --- /dev/null +++ b/locale/en/blog/can-i-be.md @@ -0,0 +1,48 @@ +# Can I be…? + +2022-11-19 | [@andrea](/@andrea) + +![Screenshot of headlines of reddit posts, all are quoted right below](/img-local/blog/can-i-be.png) + +I've noticed recently how many posts on some subreddits I follow are basically requests for validation of one's identity. +Here's just a few examples from just one of them ([r/Nonbinary](https://reddit.com/r/Nonbinary)): + + - “can you be AFAB and very fem and still be non binary?”, + - “Can I be straight and still non-binary???”, + - “can I still kindaa think of myself as a dude but also be nonbinary??”, + - “Can I be Genderfluid and Nonbinairy?” + - “Can I be non-binary but still really enjoy my masculine appearance? I'm new to this 😅” + +Whenever I read a headline like that, I just roll my eyes and think to myself: _of course you can, silly!_ 😉 + +I get where those questions come from. We live in a patriarchal, allocishetnormative society. +There are schemes to follow. Rules to obey. Permissions to be granted. + +A cis straight guy never asked himself “can I be a man, marry one woman and have a bunch of kids?” +– because that's exactly what the society expects of him, that's the scheme he's seeing in movies, books, among celebrities… +It's only when you diverge from the One True Path of Life™ that you have to worry about what will others think. +Our society teaches us to think that we need permission to be ourselves; +that we can't be who we are until it gets validated by people around us. + +And queer is saying: fuck that. + +You don't need permission to be you. +The way you look and express yourself doesn't need to match anyone's expectations that they made +based on your AGAB, name, labels, or anything else. +Your labels don't have to make sense to others. +Sure, they're useful tools to communicate ideas, to approximate meanings – +but at the end of the day your labels are _yours_. + +Yes, you can be a nonbinary dude. Even if somebody tells you that you can't, their opinion won't stop you from being a nonbinary dude. +You can be a feminine AFAB enby. You can be straight and nonbinary. You can be a man and a woman at the same time. +You know best who you are, what your relationship with gender is like, who you're attracted to… +You found the words that best describe what you feel – so feel free to… use those words to describe what you feel. +That's what they're for! + +We might have lots of shared experiences with other people, but trust me, nobody else feels _exactly_ what you're feeling. +Gender is complex. So is sexual, romantic or platonic attraction. +We might try to put those concepts into rigid, simple definitions, but there's always gonna be someone who simply… doesn't fit in them. + +And it's okay. + +You don't need permission to be queer. diff --git a/locale/en/blog/twitter-login-deprecated.md b/locale/en/blog/twitter-login-deprecated.md index 8702f5ed5..90a9cdca0 100644 --- a/locale/en/blog/twitter-login-deprecated.md +++ b/locale/en/blog/twitter-login-deprecated.md @@ -14,6 +14,7 @@ when the company seems to be struggling with internal chaos. **We strongly recommend setting up a different login method and [disconnecting the PronounsPage app from Twitter](https://twitter.com/settings/connected_apps)**. +[comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/IanColdwater/status/1592281503610048512) [comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/ihearthestia/status/1590888585825521665) [comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/iteamon/status/1590736948540284928) [comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/TCBullfrog/status/1590866499862147073) diff --git a/locale/en/img/blog/can-i-be.png b/locale/en/img/blog/can-i-be.png new file mode 100644 index 000000000..4159138b0 Binary files /dev/null and b/locale/en/img/blog/can-i-be.png differ