[en][blog] can i be?

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+# Can I be…?
+
+<small>2022-11-19 | [@andrea](/@andrea)</small>
+
+![Screenshot of headlines of reddit posts, all are quoted right below](/img-local/blog/can-i-be.png)
+
+I've noticed recently how many posts on some subreddits I follow are basically requests for validation of one's identity. 
+Here's just a few examples from just one of them ([r/Nonbinary](https://reddit.com/r/Nonbinary)):
+
+ - “can you be AFAB and very fem and still be non binary?”,
+ - “Can I be straight and still non-binary???”,
+ - “can I still kindaa think of myself as a dude but also be nonbinary??”,
+ - “Can I be Genderfluid and Nonbinairy?”
+ - “Can I be non-binary but still really enjoy my masculine appearance? I'm new to this 😅”
+
+Whenever I read a headline like that, I just roll my eyes and think to myself: _of course you can, silly!_ 😉
+
+I get where those questions come from. We live in a patriarchal, allocishetnormative society.
+There are schemes to follow. Rules to obey. Permissions to be granted.
+
+A cis straight guy never asked himself “can I be a man, marry one woman and have a bunch of kids?”
+– because that's exactly what the society expects of him, that's the scheme he's seeing in movies, books, among celebrities…
+It's only when you diverge from the One True Path of Life™ that you have to worry about what will others think.
+Our society teaches us to think that we need permission to be ourselves;
+that we can't be who we are until it gets validated by people around us.
+
+And queer is saying: fuck that.
+
+You don't need permission to be you.
+The way you look and express yourself doesn't need to match anyone's expectations that they made
+based on your <abbr title="assigned gender at birth">AGAB</abbr>, name, labels, or anything else.
+Your labels don't have to make sense to others.
+Sure, they're useful tools to communicate ideas, to approximate meanings –
+but at the end of the day your labels are _yours_.
+
+Yes, you can be a nonbinary dude. Even if somebody tells you that you can't, their opinion won't stop you from being a nonbinary dude.
+You can be a feminine <abbr title="assinged female at borth">AFAB</abbr> enby. You can be straight and nonbinary. You can be a man and a woman at the same time.
+You know best who you are, what your relationship with gender is like, who you're attracted to…
+You found the words that best describe what you feel – so feel free to… use those words to describe what you feel.
+That's what they're for!
+
+We might have lots of shared experiences with other people, but trust me, nobody else feels _exactly_ what you're feeling.
+Gender is complex. So is sexual, romantic or platonic attraction.
+We might try to put those concepts into rigid, simple definitions, but there's always gonna be someone who simply… doesn't fit in them.
+
+And it's okay.
+
+You don't need permission to be queer.

locale/en/blog/twitter-login-deprecated.md

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 **We strongly recommend setting up a different login method
 and [disconnecting the PronounsPage app from Twitter](https://twitter.com/settings/connected_apps)**.
 
+[comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/IanColdwater/status/1592281503610048512)
 [comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/ihearthestia/status/1590888585825521665)
 [comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/iteamon/status/1590736948540284928)
 [comment]: <> (https://twitter.com/TCBullfrog/status/1590866499862147073)